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When And Why Separation Agreements Make Sense

Separation agreements are contracts regarding typical divorce issues like custody and alimony. Couples can generally contract to anything as long as it is not illegal. Parties cannot contract to be divorced. Only a court can enter a divorce judgment.

Separation agreements must be in writing and signed by both parties before a notary (not necessarily the same notary) to be enforceable. However, separation agreements are not court orders, and their enforcement and modification options are governed generally by contract law.

Keep in mind that any custody agreement can always be modified by a court if the court finds the same not to be in the best interest of the minor child. But support and property division provisions are generally not modifiable by the court, though they may be modified with the consent of both parties, as long as the modification is in writing, and signed by both parties before a notary.

When An Agreement Is Signed

Separation agreements are signed when the parties are going to separate or have already separated, but before they receive their absolute divorce judgment.

Benefits Of A Separation Agreement

Control: Because separation agreements are contracts, no one can force either you or your spouse to sign it. A separation agreement is not an enforceable document until both parties have signed it before a notary. Therefore, because this is a voluntary, contractual process, you maintain some control as to the end result of your disputes rather than submitting your issues to a judge to determine.

Privacy: The negotiations and resulting contract are private. You do not have to disclose the contents of either to anyone. When you participate in litigation, all court proceedings are open to the public and any resulting order is made part of a permanent legal file available for the public to inspect, should anyone choose to.

Time and cost savings: If both parties have an understanding and agreement regarding how they want their issues resolved in the contract, this is an efficient process in which each party maintains some level of control. In litigation, the court controls the timing of your matter being heard and resolved. Even agreeing on a few matters in a separation agreement will save time in the litigation process and allow all parties to focus resources on the remaining matters.

Important Factors To Keep In Mind

Once you sign a separation agreement, it is difficult if not impossible to modify it. That is why seeking appropriate counsel and having an attorney draft the agreement is of the utmost importance. Before you sign ANYTHING, take the agreement to a lawyer to go over what the draft agreement means to you.

Did You Know?

  • A separation agreement does not bar certain claims your spouse can bring against third parties, such as an alienation of affection lawsuit. Alienation of affection refers to a valid marriage with some level of love and affection that was minimized and diminished due to the wrongful acts of a third party. In an alienation of affection suit, a sexual relationship between the spouse and the third party does not have to be proved.
  • Also, in the event you have an affair with someone while you are married, your spouse can sue your partner for “criminal conversation.” Criminal conversation is a legal term for a third party having sex with someone else’s spouse.

Learn About Your Options For Resolving Disputes

For more information about legal separation, call Ellis Family Law at 919-944-4811 (Durham) or 919-891-8838 (Pittsboro), or complete our online contact form to schedule a meeting.