Dads are a significant figure in a child’s life; they become role models to their children and guide them through their early childhood. Without a father’s guidance, your child would likely be a completely different person.
But some dads find the role of “father” especially difficult after a divorce. You spend less time with them and adopt new responsibilities as a single parent. But dads do not have to suffer because of their divorce.
Four tips for maintaining a relationship with your kids
You want to continue a close relationship with your children and watch them grow into successful adults. Luckily, there are ways to deepen your relationship with your child, even during a separation:
- Don’t overcompensate – It’s crucial to put effort into your connection with your kids, but do not try to overcompensate with gifts, trips or other goods to help them with through the divorce. It’s better to connect with them emotionally instead.
- Establish a new family dynamic – Change is scary for most children, but you can help them transition by setting up the new family dynamic. Establish a routine and new family traditions, so they know they aren’t losing you amid the change.
- Try to keep things civil – Divorce may ruin your marriage with your partner, but it’s not the end of the relationship if you have children together. You need to keep a civil atmosphere between you and your co-parent for your child. Never bring your relationship problems to your child; it only makes it harder for the child’s development.
- Spend quality time with your child – Whether your child lives with you or you visit your child, you need to take advantage of the time you have with them. It’s the small moments of quality time that your child remembers and deepens the connection between the two of you.
The most important aspect of maintaining your role as a father is there. As long as you are present and active in your child’s life, your child will grow up happier and stronger for it. Luckily, it’s rather easy to stay in your child’s life through a collaborative divorce.
In North Carolina, spouses can collaborate through their divorce instead of fighting in court. You can discuss everything from property division to child custody. You only need to work with your former partner to ensure the right outcome for both of you.